Public speaking nerves can turn into a supportive friend!
by: Lyn Roseaman from Toastmasters International
We are all brilliant learners from the day we are born.If we’ve learned to fear public speaking we can learn something new and replace this feeling.With the right approach we can get rid of the debilitating nerves and use the nerves that give us positive energy and an engaging stage presence.These are the good nerves that help us connect with our audience.To achieve this, Lyn Roseaman of Toastmasters International suggests we need to reprogramme our mindset and make our nerves our friend with the following steps:
|1. Face up to your excuses
Make a list of all your speaking fears and excuses. Think about what you would say to a friend or a child presenting you with these excuses. Would it have something to do with self-belief, visualising successful outcomes or some other positive advice?
2. Allow some imperfections
Remember, the audience is unlikely to know if you make a mistake unless you tell them.
Give yourself permission to be less than perfect. Set yourself challenging, yet achievable, standards and give yourself a pat on the back when you’ve spoken. Focus on what you did well, and note ways in which you can be even better next time. Great speeches are an iterative process of crafting and honing content, practising delivery and seeking feedback.
3. Harness the power of your brain and your emotions
According to psychiatrist Steve Peters, author of The Chimp Paradox; we have a Human part of our brain that works with logic and reason and a Chimp that makes snap judgments based on emotions and gut instinct. In public speaking, we need them to work together.
As public speakers who are stressed or nervous, our Chimp will always react first; going into fight, flight or freeze mode. This is normal, but it is not what you need for a strong performance and quick thinking.
One solution is to programme your brain with positive speaking associations: In any public-speaking environment, arrive early; familiarise yourself with the speaking area so that you feel comfortable; introduce yourself to members of the audience, so you see friendly faces from the stage; register the applause; give yourself a pat on the back for a speech well delivered. Once you are more comfortable and your Chimp is no longer in control, your ability to reason and think on your feet will grow, while your Chimp will help bring energy and enthusiasm to your speech.
4. Use your nerves to fuel positive energy
Nervousness is energy; it is what we experience when the adrenaline is flowing. And adrenaline is our friend, giving us energy and presence on stage.
Before the adrenaline kicks in, give yourself the pre-match pep talk – I’m ready, this is going to be fun, etc. Once the adrenaline surges, we need to make it help us. Some people find it helpful to move, run on the spot, jump up and down. Breathe slowly and deeply. Take to the stage and pause. Take a deep breath. Start to connect with your audience with your attention-grabbing opening. After your speech, enjoy the surge of wellbeing you get from success.
5. Focus on connection
There will always be someone on the phone, yawning or looking distracted. This is not personal. Instead, focus on the majority of people in your audience who are with you, alert and attentive, the people who are smiling, nodding and appreciating what you have to say. Connect with these by sharing relevant stories and ideas in a way that is meaningful to them and you will feel happier and more relaxed on stage.
Reprogramming your mindset won’t happen instantly. However, regular speaking practice and a prominently displayed ‘note to self’ about connection (not perfection) will take you in the right direction. Once you feel the connection and make friends in the audience you’ll find yourself starting to enjoy your public speaking.
ABOUT LYN ROSEAMAN
Lyn Roseaman is from Toastmasters International, a non-profit educational organisation that teaches public speaking and leadership skills through a worldwide network of meeting locations. Headquartered in Rancho Santa Margarita, California, the organisation’s membership exceeds 352,000 in more than 16,400 clubs in 141 countries. Since 1924, Toastmasters International has helped people of all backgrounds become more confident in front of an audience. There are more than 300 clubs in the UK and Ireland with over 7,500 members. To find your local club: www.toastmasters.org Follow @Toastmasters and @ToastmastersUKI on Twitter.